Pasadena Family Law Blog

Pasadena Family Law Blog

  • The enactment of so-called "religious freedom" laws, such as that enacted in Indiana on March 26, 2015, are deeply troubling for a great many reasons. The greatest concern about such laws is not whether or not they are Constitutional, but the disconnection they create. Unfortunately, the level of conflict in the world has been increasing. In order to address this very serious problem, it ...
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  • Empathy Is Incompatible With Shame and Judgment

    || 27-Jan-2015

    On December 8, 2014, the Huffington Post published my article titled " The Power of Empathy." Based upon the response I received from that article, it appears to have been my most important article to date. In fact, it was shared by Harvard University's Graduate School of Education, the Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL), the University of ...
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  • The Impact of Religiously Biased Mental Health Professionals

    || 12-Nov-2014

    Anyone familiar with me and/or my work knows that I have a great deal of respect for those involved in the mental health field. I have been a member of the San Gabriel Valley Psychological Association since 2008 and have attended almost all of their monthly lunch meetings since joining that organization. I spend a great deal of time reading psychological research and articles and engaging in ...
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  • Last month, Pasadena divorce lawyer Mark Baer was recognized as the best in L.A. for family law and divorce. The Best of Los Angeles Award lauded Mr. Baer's commitment to defusing conflict in divorce and achieving peaceful separations. This in itself is a notable accolade. Add to this that Mr. Baer has just received the rare honor of being selected as a Top 100 Lawyer. Just as the name gives ...
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  • God Bless America!

    || 12-Oct-2013

    Some things are just too coincidental to actually be coincidental and we can find the connection if we look hard enough. In " From mere coincidences to meaningful discoveries," Thomas L. Griffiths and Joshua B. Tenenbaum said, "By attending to coincidences, we have the opportunity to discover that our beliefs are false, and to develop more accurate theories. Our sensitivity to ...
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  • Guardianship

    || 18-Jul-2013

    There are certain circumstances in which someone other than a child's parent might obtain legal and physical custody over a child—or in other words, obtain guardianship of the child. This means that this adult will care for the child just as a parent would, provide all of the child's everyday necessities (such as shelter, food and clothing) and make important decisions concerning the ...
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  • Supervised Visitation in California

    || 12-Jul-2013

    Many divorces result in one parent having primary custody of his or her child and the other parent having visitation rights. While the court generally attempts to respect parents' rights to see their children and spend time with them, certain restrictions on visitation will be imposed if believed to be in the best interests of the child. One example of this is when the court orders monitored ...
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  • Mr. Baer Published in New Book Written by Industry Leaders

    || 11-Jul-2013

    Experts in their respective fields contributed chapters to a book titled Inside the Minds: Strategies for Family Law in California, 2013 ed. The list of those writing the book included both powerful figures and industry leaders. Pasadena family lawyer, Mark B. Baer, was approached to write a chapter for this volume. He was honored to be considered alongside these prestigious people. Mr. Baer has ...
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  • Currently, there is a loophole in California law that allows individuals to seek spousal support even after they are convicted for sexually abusing their children or their spouses' children. After a CBS2 news story brought light to this issue, a California legislator is now proposing a Bill that aims to close that loophole, CBS recently reported. CBS2 had previously done a story on a woman ...
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  • Instant Gratification or Long-Term Growth?

    || 22-May-2013

    Last night, a colleague of mine praised me both for my passion and for my marketing skills. I was very pleased that Tawnya Gilreath took it upon herself to correct his misstatement. She stated that I am very skilled at educating people and causing them to think. I must admit that both statements are accurate. If I were not able to effectively get my message out to others, how would I be able to ...
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  • Child Custody & International Child Abduction

    || 11-Mar-2013

    The United States welcomes people from all over the world with open arms. There are a tremendous number of families in the United States where one or both parents are immigrants, lawful permanent citizens, or citizens enjoying dual-citizenship both in the United States and their nation of origin. Divorce is a fact of life, and in the United States, nearly half of all marriages end in divorce. ...
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  • A Comparison Between Actual War and Family Law Litigation

    || 9-Feb-2013

    It has long been said that the tongue is sharper than any sword. In fact, the Bible says, "Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing." (Bible, Proverbs 12:18 (NIV)) Of course, in litigation, we place such words into correspondence, declarations and pleadings in an effort to coerce a "settlement" or otherwise persuade a judge. As they say, ...
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  • – Earlier this month Brittney Spears' former friend Sam Lutfi testified in court that Brittney Spears shaved her head in 2007 because she was afraid it could be tested for drugs. Lutfi said that Spears was afraid the results could be used against her by her ex-husband Kevin Federline in their child custody battle. Under California law, the court could not have forced Spears to submit to ...
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  • On October 2, 2012 a child custody case was brought before the Florida Supreme Court. The judge overseeing the case listened to arguments over a child custody dispute between two lesbians that were formally from Brevard County. Lawyers on both sides said that the outcome of the case was unlikely to affect other couples, whether they were gay or straight. The judge brought up the possibility of ...
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  • Maybe clients would be more satisfied with the outcomes of their cases if they changed the way in which they interviewed and selected the attorneys they retain. When clients consult with attorneys, they frequently ask the attorneys questions of law - they want to know what the law is on a particular issue. Shouldn't any well-regarded attorney know the law in their field of practice? If so, is ...
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  • The Real Life Consequences Resulting from Families and Society Shaming Homosexuals.

    || 22-Sep-2012

    I have never been one to mince words. The reason that so many homosexuals have issues with their sexual orientation is because of the shame they experience or expect to experience from their family, friends and society. Let's now discuss how this plays out in life -- I mean for the heterosexual community. Homosexual people often marry heterosexual people because they don't need to deal ...
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  • On August 20, 2012, an article titled “ Divorce Too Expensive For Poorest Americans, New Study Says ” was published in The Huffington Post. In my opinion, neither this article nor the underlying findings support the conclusion that divorce is too expensive for the poorest Americans.In fact, the article states that “the financial costs and benefits of divorce extend beyond the ...
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  • Family law is not spandex and therefore one-size-fits-all does not work.I will be the first person to agree that there is no process for handling divorces that is appropriately suited for every case.For example, if a case involves issues of child safety and/or certain levels of domestic violence, litigation could possibly be the most appropriate way in which to proceed.One of the programs being ...
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  • On May 9, 2012, President Obama made the following statement regarding his personal view on the issue of same-sex marriage: "I have to tell you that over the course of several years as I have talked to friends and family and neighbors when I think about members of my own staff who are in incredibly committed monogamous relationships, same-sex relationships, who are raising kids together, when ...
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  • Litigators have been destroying families for decades, including mine. I was a child of divorce. My parents divorced in 1984 and hired very well-regarded Beverly Hills divorce attorneys (well-regarded back then and still well-regarded to this day). For what, I have absolutely no idea. Other than being exceptional at the use of the adversarial system to create permanent damage to families, I see no ...
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  • Like it or not, if there are children of the relationship (regardless of their age), the family still exists after the relationship ends. The manner in which you end a relationship determines whether your family will be functional or dysfunctional from that day forward. Abraham Lincoln’s Notes for a Law Lecture dated July 1, 1850, provide in pertinent part as follows: “Discourage ...
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  • Judicial Bias - A Variable That Is Often Overlooked in Family Law Litigation

    || 14-Jan-2012

    “ It is generally agreed that a litigant is entitled to have her case decided by a judge who can approach the facts in a detached and objective manner; indeed, the protection of the integrity and dignity of the judicial process from judicial bias has been hailed as ‘the palladium of our judicial system.’ ” In fact, California Code of Judicial Ethics provides in part as ...
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  • What Triggers Violence in Custody Battles in the United States?

    || 23-Oct-2011

    "While violence arising from custody battles in the United States has been a constant presence, the American Bar Association (ABA) Commission on Domestic Violence has long recognized the potential for escalation in such disputes." In fact, "studies show that 25-50% of disputed custody cases involve domestic violence." Three of the most recent incidents involving shooting deaths ...
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  • Problem-solving is a hallmark of a good lawyer. It involves a creative attempt to discover a result that may be outside the specific provisions of law, ruling, or statute, but that will represent the best reasonable outcome for all of the parties involved. Since law schools, historically, have not taught problem-solving skills, the American Bar Association (ABA) advises lawyers-to-be that they ...
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  • The Misconception that Collaborative Attorneys Fail to Protect Their Clients

    || 25-May-2011

    I attended the Sixth Annual Statewide Conference for Collaborative Practice California in San Diego from April 29 - May 1, 2011. The Conference was held at a terrific venue, the speakers were amazing and I met other collaborative divorce professionals. On the last day of the Conference, I met a psychologist who was not a collaborative divorce professional, but who attended the event out of ...
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